The Work
When something feels off in your life or in your relationships, it’s often not because you lack insight.
It’s because your nervous system learned ways to protect you that are still shaping how you respond.
This work is about understanding those patterns and restoring connection to yourself, to others, and to the world around you.
How Trauma Affects the Nervous System
Your nervous system is designed for safety. When it perceives threat, emotional or physical, it reacts automatically.
Trauma forms when experiences overwhelm the system’s capacity to respond and integrate. This doesn’t only come from extreme events. It can develop through early relationships, chronic stress, emotional mis attunement, instability, or situations that required you to adapt in order to cope.
Over time, the nervous system learns protective responses such as hypervigilance, shutdown, numbness, appeasement, or withdrawal. These responses happen before thought. They are about survival.
This is why you can know you are safe and still feel anxious, guarded, or disconnected.
When protection becomes a pattern
When protection is activated repeatedly, it can become the baseline.
You might feel constantly on edge or emotionally flat. You may move between stress and shutdown, or struggle to settle, rest, or feel fully present.
These are not personal failures.
They are signs that your system learned to stay protected.
How connection is affected
When the nervous system is organized around protection, connection becomes limited.
Connection to yourself may feel unclear. You might lose touch with your body, your needs, or your inner sense of truth.
Connection to others can feel effortful. Closeness may feel risky. Boundaries may be hard to hold.
Connection to the world may feel muted, as if life is happening at a distance.
Disconnection is often the result of protective strategies that once made sense.
How this shows up in relationships
Relationships are where these patterns often become most visible.
You may notice the same dynamics repeating with different people. You might people-please, shut down, become anxious, pull away, or lose yourself in connection. Conflict can trigger fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.
You can be thoughtful and self-aware and still react in ways you don’t want.
These are not flaws.
They are nervous system strategies.
Why insight alone isn’t enough
Understanding your patterns can help, but insight does not always change how your body responds.
These responses live in the nervous system and the subconscious. When something feels threatening, even subtly, the body reacts before choice or reasoning is available.
For change to last, it needs to happen at the level where the pattern is held.
How this work supports reconnection
We begin with what is real now: a reaction, a stuck place, a pattern that keeps repeating.
Through focused inquiry, subconscious work using QEC, somatic awareness, and mindfulness, we work with these patterns at the level they live. The pace is guided by your nervous system.
Rather than managing symptoms or analyzing your story endlessly, this work supports the system to reorganize around what feels truer and safer now. The process is calm, non-invasive, and often creates meaningful change within four to six sessions.
As safety increases, connection becomes more available.
Connection to yourself.
Connection to others.
Connection to the world.
The aim is not to force change, but to create the conditions where change can happen.
What sessions are like
Sessions are spacious and responsive rather than prescriptive. We work with what is present in the moment, including emotions, memories, thoughts, beliefs, and body cues, following the signals of your nervous system rather than forcing a particular outcome.
Through gentle inquiry and subconscious work using QEC, we identify the belief or internal pattern shaping your response and allow the emotional charge connected to it to release. This process often unfolds across emotional, bodily, and energetic layers, rather than remaining only in the thinking mind.
From there, the system reorganizes around what feels truer and safer now, allowing change to be felt and embodied.
What often shifts
As the nervous system regulates, triggers lose their charge. When they arise, they are easier to notice and work with rather than something that takes over.
Responses soften. Recovery is faster. There is more space between trigger and response, more presence, more choice.
For change to last, it needs to happen at the level where the pattern is held.
This is not self-fixing.
It is learning to read your system more accurately
Working together
Sessions are 90 minutes, online or in person in NYC.
We work at a pace your system can integrate.
If this speaks to where you are, we can begin with a conversation.